Ok I dont think you should truly be a jerk but the only way to get over is to be conceited...let me elaborate: Act like YOU are doing HER the favor of even hanging out with her. This will boost up your confidence and when you're confident you'll be more relaxed hence you'll talk more freely because you are already comfortable.
Also act like shes your BFF itll break the ice for you. And last thing:STOP THINKING ABOUT WHAT SHES THINKING! Thats just going to keep you distracted and make you so tense that you'll bound to choke up. JUST DONT MAKE SUCH A BIG DEAL. This isn't a job interview...its to HAVE FUN! Let me know how it goes..Any advice on how to become less shy?
I hope your not in person finally meeting someone off the internet that you have been talking to..... thats dangerous. Make sure you def know him/her like she goes to your school or something like that. But to not be shy .... just try to start the conversation. If its you starting it then it makes you seem less shy and you can start the conversation with a topic of your choice. It might be a topic that you know more about and you are more interested in and this will help you be less shy. Also for simple conversation starters you can start by talking about the weather or simple starters like that. Hope this helps :o)
Honestly, you can't just not be shy anymore. Think about it like this: she'll find it weird if you don't talk a lot and you seem really uncomfortable, so just be open and talk to her and it should be okay. DO NOT worry about what she thinks!! That will just cause you to be more shy. Remember, she already wants to hang out with you, so she's expecting you to be conversational, so just talk and have a good time. Good luck!
you can't just Talk, you have to have something to say.
so when you are having a conversation, you only need to talk if you have something to say, sometimes listening is very important to a girl.
so in the conversation, participate, ask questions, answer questions, but don't just talk to talk. relate to her on a personal level.
Try not to go over and over how it will be. Pretend that you are a little more confident - even to yourself. Find something to do that will give easy reasons for conversation and relaxation - such as watching street entertainers, people watching over a drink at an outside cafe etc.
Be more of a listener rather than a talker, let her do all the rabbiting, so you can relax and not worry about saying too much/the wrong thing etc.
ask her about her family, holidays etc and have a good time!
i believe shy guys are so hot. no lie. but if you want to be less shy, just Talk about interesting things, and joke around with her. you know what i mean. don't be so stiff, just be yourself, because if she doesn't like who you really are, then she doesn't deserve you. whatever you do, do not act like someone you are not. that will make the whole day bad for you and her. just be you and i bet she will be into you.
hope you have fun.
You don't have to worry. Girls are usually good at keeping up a conversation. Pick stuff you guys have in common, ask questions to find out more.When you find you guys have something in common she will enjoy talking about why. And most of all be confident.
p.s. if you are still nervous watch a movie together, that way there wont have to be a lot of talking, and afterwards you can just talk about that.
I know this sounds crazy, but I used to be pretty shy. One day I decided I just wouldn't give a **** and act like my true self. Think about it, the reason people are shy is that they're afraid of what people will think of them, but will they ever know YOU if you act quiet?
Loosen up and have some fun, man.
Ask her a lot of questions. People feel special if you take an interest in them. If she asks about you, then tell her about yourself but try not to ramble on. Then ask her another question about herself. People seem to hate it, when a date talks too much about themselves. But they also don't like it if the date doesn't talk at all. Women also like funny men. Try to be laid back and not so nervous. When you are nervous, then you make the other person also feel uncomfortable. Alcohol helps too, but don't get wasted.
Think of some topics that you both might like to talk about. Later, start the conversation on that topic and she will probably add on to it. And just have confidence in yourself. If you embarrasss yourself then that is okay. Everyone gets embarrassedd sometime. Well, good luck! And rememberr to justs have fun and talk!
i used to be really shy and u know i told myself that if they dont like what ive got to say then i shouldnt even be talking to them. if you like her then you probably have a lot in common and she should like you. just dont care because they dont matter if they dont like you or what you say you dont need that kind of person in yhour life anyways
Compliment her casually. Tell a funny story and instead of making tons of small talk ask something like ';do you believe in aliens?'; or ';what's your funniest memory?';, ';what would you do with a million dollars?';. Things like that usually lead into more interesting things and you won't have to force yourself to come up with things to say. You'll get to know eachother quickly and you'll feel more comfortable.
Being shy isn't that bad of a thing.
But if your bothered by that i strongly disagree to looking up dirty things on the internet. That won't help much. You should just meet new people and talk about anything that pops up into your mind. You'll make new friends and the more friends you have to more people you can talk you.
Hi. Boys often have this kind of problem with girls. Possibly, you could love her! But back to the advice. You should just be yourself and look for things you have in common to use as a subject. Laugh when she says something funny and make sure she knows you're listening! I hope this helped and best of luck!
if you are inside, put on a film or something so that if you have nothing to say it wont be awkward.
otherwise, make a list of stuff you can talk to her about, like new films coming out, stuff that you are looking forward to in the summer etc
Being shy is some indication of having a lower self esteem than 'normal'. You just need to understand that people are people, nobody's better than you and you're no better than anybody else. I got over my shyness once I started believing that 'I'm normal, everyone else is weird'. :)
i know this is cheesy and all the magazines say it and blahdeblah, but seriously, it works--talk to yourself in the mirror, practice talking to others, and sing in the shower. Queer, maybe, but the shower thing works. As do the others.
its hard and im the female version of you. have ONE glass of wine to calm the nerves. should just about help, it will at least relax your nervs and open you up. try not to rely on it too much. but just as a kick start.
:)
I think you should talk about something that really interest you, and be sincere. But don't dominate the conversation though.
ok so you can practice today on talking to people just make small talk like the weather or how she is. maybe u can talk about what ur doing that day just be yourself and try to be social.good luck kid.
talk to yourself as if you were talking to someone you know. it will make you more comfortable with that person. Then go on with more people!
to take the pressure off just ask her a question like whats ur favorite ice cream flavor....then shell answer and ask u then u say what it is but just ask many questions and try to tlk a little more.....
just keep pushing yourself to talk and hen you will just get used to talking to her and then shy anymore!!!!
talk about music, always gets a conversation going, or ask favorites
dont freak yourself out. just like if you were hangin out with your friends.
no biggie
first off talk as you would talk to any other friend and joke around that usually breaks the ice =]
Look up dirty stuff on the internet you will see the world in a whole new way.
Don't try to defeat it. It's who you are.
-Jesse
Go to someplace active like a game room.
always elaborate on your answers (don't give 1 word answer)...and be yourself.
u should just have fun and talk and talk
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