Need advice on how to seriously reduce the PAIN with anal sex?

Me and my gf have been together for a couple years now.And weve tried anal sex a few times.But it hurts her so so badly. We both have been trying ways to do it with out it hurtsing her.Ive heard of anal ease or something like that but i know nothing about it or were to get it.I think shes not reaxed enuff or something i dont know.Any tips on how to make the pain go away except for not doing it?Need advice on how to seriously reduce the PAIN with anal sex?
Lube, lube and more lube! (KY Jelly, not Vaseline)


She also needs to relax, try a massage or something to calm her down. It should NEVER hurt if you do it right.Need advice on how to seriously reduce the PAIN with anal sex?
You must be doing it wrong. Stop trying I heard you can get serious damage from doing that.
If she's fighting this, it will always be painful. She has to relax. You need to loosen the sphincter muscle with your finger and not just try to enter her. As she learns to trust the finger manipulation, with lube of course, always with lube, she should relax. This will lead to better anal sex. The other side of the coin, is that you two tried it and it's not comfortable for her. Accept this and try a different position. Not all women will be accepting of anal sex.
Lube that baby up and she needs to relax.
darn i thought u were gay lol
If it hurts her so much, why are you so determined to do it when she has two other more convenient openings available?





Besides using lots of lubricant, it helps to push out, which stiffens the wall of the rectum and opens the anus. The instinct is to try to draw you in, which only clamps down on the anal muscle.
well...im not sure what u r doing wrong, you can find hundreds of detailed infos about it on the web like lube lube lube and lube and do not start penetrating with ur cock first...may be she would be relaxed in the bathtub in hot water with candlelight and u would start circling and massagin her *** hole with a finger and stimulate other parts too...do it for a long time, and u dont even have to enter ur finger...the main thing is to show her its an ejoyable thing. and if u r doing it well, it ll be her who ll tell u to insert a finger gently. just be patient. and dont do it every day.





EDIT : mac hyne told u to use numbing lube. i suggest u not to do that, becouse pain is the bodys sign to show if somethings going wrong, so pain is necessary, or else u may cause damage to her rectum if she does not feel pain therefor cannot tell u when to stop.
lube and poppers!!!!
she needs to take control of the getting inside stage . you enter real slow , and after a bit shell be ready to go .
Try a variation on the FTD thing. TFTD with lots of lube. Tongue, fingers, toys and then the main peice. Use lots of lube for the final three, but she's GOT to be into it. If she's just trying to make you happy, then she will never enjoy it. If you do good work with the TFT part, then she'll ask for the D.





Patience. Patience. More patience. Maybe you have to start with T, and and a small toy before moving onto the main event. Just remember that she puts your stuff in her mouth, so I woyuldn't force the issue if I were you.
why would you want anal sex with a girl? you sure your not picturing her as a man while having sex.
Relax and use a good lube that is water based so you can use as much as you need but i can't say it enough, she has to relax relax relax.
You just have to learn how to deal with it. You'll stretch it out in time.
In addition to KY, you need to get her stimulated and ready for it...also do not have vaginal intercourse after; do that first because you can transmit dangerous bacteria from the anus to the vagina. Make sure she's relaxed, stimulated and KYed.
Use lots of lube, and go very slowly. Try this position: You lay on your back and let her enter you. She controls the tempo that way. And tell her to push back (as though using the bathroom) as you enter.





It can be VERY pleasurable when done right - for either sex.
Check-it-out... There are certain types of sex-toys (inserts) that have a graduated diameter (cone-shaped) which start with a narrow circumference and get bigger-around the further it is inserted





Your GF can use one of those toys to dilate her sphincter (at her own pace and comfort) prior to having intercourse; she could then insert a butt-plug to keep herself dilated until the two of you get to that stage of your love-making.
Basically use some TLC in the process. To start with, that opening is programmed for exit only so you need to re-program it for taking items in reverse. Start with toys that are small and working up to things that are about the size of your penis while using lots of water-soluble lube.





Be very careful that you don't lose the toy in her anus as she will never forgive you for that if she has to go to the E.R. to have it removed.





After she gets to the point that she can handle the larger object, the next stage is to put things into practice. Begin things normally for you two and when you are ready, start the anal thing gently and proceed easily with lots of lube.
O.K. , here goes. There are Two things: The first is to not be loaded up with c***. A person can clean himself/herself out by two ways: Drink something like a bottle of pommegranet/blueberry juice for lunch. I think you get the idea with that one. The second method is with water. Like with an enema bag, or take the enema hose and connect it somehow to tub or shower and use it that way (really old tubs used to have a faucet that looked like the gas supply in the chem lab; you could just push a small diameter hose on it.) This er, uh, cleaning activity doesn't have to be done to the max so you won't have much problem with water still inside, or you can work on it till little bits of stuff from last year come out where-upon you'll be dripping from time to time for half the day. (This is so gross I should be paid, kidnapped, or get a few fans, Please!)


The second glorious thing is how to get IT, or anything else, in: (you can learn this by yourself, if you want.) Put a little lube on your an** and a little on what ever you want to put in. Then LIGHTLY press the whatever against the outside of your an**. Next, push your internal muscles in exactly the way you would if you were taking a c***. Yes, that's it ! Now what is going to happen is that the an** will feel the item on the outside and react EXACTLY as if it were ah, er, something on the Inside. Then everything opens right up, there is NO pain, and you're REALLY gunna like it !! I think I'm gunna FAINT ! Please, somebody catch Davie Monster !
you are doing it wrong. people who exhibt pain through anal sex are doing it completely wrong. there are so many nerve endings down there it's almost impossible to have it not feel bad. it actually feels great for both girls and guys. a lot of girls i know actually prefer anal sex to vaginal sex because it hurts them to have vaginal intercourse.





you need to use lots of lube. when you penetrate her, you need to go slowly.





go online and look for some good lube like numbing lube of some kind. i don't know off the top of my head, but there out there.





after the first or second time anal starts to feel awesome.
Use some type of lubricant. You could find some at some sex shop, OR you could use KY jelly, which can be found at Wal Mart even.
why the obsession with anal? if it's hurting her so much, I have to assume it is you that are really wanting to do anal.





why is that?